Learning To Love My Love Handles

Omg I cannot believe it but your girl has love handles and I kind of like it. I was super thin growing up. Some people literally called me sticks. They say each pregnancy is harder and weight gain is more obvious. Though Kairo is my second born son, he is my fourth pregnancy (I had 2 miscarriages; one before Kendall and one after) and let me tell you the postpartum weight is showing. I gained a little over 30 pounds while pregnant.  At my 6 week postpartum checkup I was 8 pounds shy of my pre-pregnancy weight. Though I am 11 weeks postpartum, I don’t quite feel ready to do full-blown out exercises. I am taking my time.

The Body Changes

I feel like my body has gone through a metamorphosis. Things are out of proportion. I need to be toned up in my mid section and my back is really out of wack. Let’s not even talk about the belly. Its like jelly for real. I’m not going to lie though I think my hubby likes the little cushion. The thickness doesn’t bother me so much its the not so toned areas that get to me.

 Biggest Fear is Letting Go of Myself

A lot of moms lose themselves after having babies. It is very easy to do. I don’t want to be that mom that can’t even recognize herself in the mirror or even worse avoids looking in the mirror because she knows deep down that she has let herself go. Though kids do seriously take a toll on our body, we have to try to look like our best selves for us and only we can define what that is not society. More importantly, we as woman need to learn not be to hard on ourselves. In the beginning, I was like what the hell is going on here, but now I’m starting to enjoy the thicker side of me.

Embrace the Curves

I can’t lie, currently, I feel much more confident when I’m fully dressed than undressed. Looking on the positive, since I grew up being super skinny, I am embracing these curves before I start a fitness journey of some kind. I’m having fun learning to dress my new shape. Though it’s a lot of adjusting to get used to, I refuse to walk around looking like I am not comfy with this baby weight.

Learning to Love My Love Handles

I’m learning to style my new body type with simple steps. Instead of hiding behind the pregnancy weight gain I’m slaying this and it actually makes me feel good when I look good. I talked about this in my Getting Back to Happy post. Here are a few things that I do to slay my look…

Tips That Are Helping Me on This Journey

Accessorizing more. I’ve been whipping out the necklaces and earrings that have been collecting dust in my jewelry box. Accessories not only brings a look together but it helps you to look more together.

Not afraid of color. I think a pop of color helps and I love bright colors like lime green and magenta.

I’m cognizant of fabric. Materials with stretch (spandex) in them are definitely my friends.

I freaking love shapewear. Spanx are bae. I’d be lost without that girdle. It helps keep things in place.

Stepped up my shoe game. Being a ShoeDazzle and JustFab member has definitely helped. When I wear dope shoes that makes my bottom area the focal point this way people aren’t paying too much attention to areas I am more insecure about and most importantly my shoe games is fierce.

Paying closer attention to my outerwear. Coats definitely can make or break your look. I’m just now learning this. Before, I wasn’t really into coats. I usually wore a ragedy black coat that is a size to large my dad bought me for Christmas. It was my work coat and eventually turned into my everyday coat.  but its the first thing people see in the cooler months. It can polish your entire look. Make a statement with your coat.

Being strategic. Remember when Beyoncé was out and about and pregnant with Blue Ivy and we had no idea?That’s because she was very strategic in how she dressed. The same applies when being discreet about weight gain. Certain styles work and certain are an epic fail. I’m learning the dressing game is a strategy. For example, high waist pants and control top leggings or control top anything for that matter are my friends.

Making the rules as I go. I’ve always been a trendsetter and not afraid to try new styles. Now that I am no longer in the corporate world, I enjoy trying things I never saw before or that’s not so common. I simply like unique stuff, so I like playing around with different textures, patterns and again colors.


Thanks for reading. What part of your body is your fave or you learned to love? Comment below, I’d love to hear from you.

2 thoughts on “Learning To Love My Love Handles

  1. I couldn’t agree more with choosing the right fabrics and accessories to make your shape look more flattering. I have yet to use Spanx, is there a particular brand you recommend?

    1. I love the Spanx brand. I really like their open bust body suits, but I am playing around with a few others- I will be doing a blog post on undergarments soon so no worried I got you covered girlie.

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