I feel like I am on the road back to happiness. The best way to describe it is that I am on an Eat, Pray, Love type of journey minus the divorce, yet I am rekindling things with my husband. It took me a while to realize that happiness is a choice, but what many don’t realize is that depression isn’t. I realized self care is major when it comes to my getting back to happy journey.
1. Self Care is The Best Care
When I don’t take care of myself, I can’t take care of others. I’m slowly learning my triggers. If i am overwhelmed, then my anxiety is on an all time high and I don’t feel good about myself. And you guessed it poor self care equates to anxiety and depression for me. Being diagnosed with postpartum depression, I am doing everything I can to be more cognizant of these triggers and prevent them. With that being said…self care is truly the best care.
2. Bubble Baths Make Me Feel Better
A nice hot bath gets me through it. I love taking a nice hot bath, with a candle or low light on and relaxing music. It gives me the opportunity to reflect on my day and squeeze in some me time. They literally make me feel better. I add epson salts and with Dove or Bath and Body Works in the tub and I am in heaven. I say they literally make me feel better because I have experienced pains or tension headaches and after bathing the pain is gone just like magic.
3. Smell Goods Make Me Feel Good
I love Bath and Body Works. Their scents are my fave. I love their candles. You can check back later for a post on my top favorite candles, but I also love their body washes and lotions. Its crazy how good scents can change your mood. When the house smells good, I feel good. My wallflowers and candles from Bath and Body Works does the trick. Also, showering and spraying my body in lovely aromas lifts my spirits too.
4. Daily Inspiration Is A Must
This one I frequently forget, but listening to inspirational podcasts help me through some of my toughest times or make me view things from a more positive angle. Currently, I listen to Joel Osteen’s podcast on the regular, but I don’t listen to it enough. I need to embed it in my daily routine cause it sets the tone for me.
5. Dance Sessions Are Everything
Growing up in my parents house, if my mom was playing Diana Ross it was going to be a good day. On Saturdays we would jam to lady diana, dance our pants off and clean the house from top to bottom. I enjoy blasting the music and having full blown dance sessions whether its solo or with my 3 year old (he loves it by the way). I dance to oldies like Whitney – I want to dance with some body and anything else. Music makes me happy. Plus its a good workout session when I don’t even realize I’m physically working out because I am having so much fine.
6. When I Look Good I Feel Good
I truly enjoy dressing up. Not getting up to go to work makes this hard, but who said stay at home moms can’t slay. I try to dress up frequently. As a young teacher, I always felt limited, I wanted to keep it extremely professional. Welp now that I am my own boss, I dress to go to the home office and get to play around with trends and be bold. It truly makes me feel great and I notice, I get a lot more accomplished when I dress up.
7. Date Nights With Hubby
I enjoy spending quality time with my hubby. When you have a kids it can be a challenge to spend time with your significant other but its crucial. We have made it our priority to go out on dates. Recently we went to a Jon B, Joe, Eric Benet and Toni Tony Tone concert at Foxwoods Casino and it was amazing. Also, sometimes the best dates are in the house when the kids are asleep. I love having candlelit dinners with my husband at wee hours in the morning . Its nice to speak and reconnect with your other half. Also, its nice to speak to someone older than the age of 3.
8. Going for Quick Walks
Sometimes you just need a breath of fresh air to clear your head. When I am overwhelmed a walk definitely helps. With the winter on the brink and dropping temps this has been a challenge but I am determined to figure something out. Maybe walking in the mall? I’ll keep you posted on that.
9. Meeting up With My Girls
I seriously look forward to spending time with my girlfriends its a must. I love my small clique. We’ve been friends since elementary and middle school. Its all about positivity too. My girlfriends keep me going in more ways than one. I’m not sure they realize the significant role they play in my life and when we can’t meet up we are chatting it up via text. With the text department sometimes I feel like I need to fall back cause they are at work and I am home.
10. Doing Things That I am Passionate About
I am a DIY type of person. I enjoy crafts. When I am crafting or creating a project with my son, I am truly in my element. I just went to Hobby Lobby for the first time and I felt like I was in heaven LOL. I’m also passionate about hair. so I love playing around and trying new styles via my hair business Queens of Wigs. Sometimes we forget to have fun.
I’m curious to know what helps you with depression and anxiety?